How to enjoy being single after being in a relationship

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Single, a word that people have dreaded since the begging of human history.Trying to find a partner to accompany them in breathing season... Haha just kidding, I watch discovery channel a lot.

But let's be real being single sucks. Every women on the planet wants a freaking boyfriend to hug at night and have company.

 Okay not that long I'm not a nun but you get the point.

I feel like being single is something fun in its own way. That single life has something to it. Now I can say, I don't have the need to look for a boyfriend anymore. If it happens it happens, obsession is over.

Love your own company

Thanks to my philosophy teacher I have learned one thing. To be happy with myself. Finding joy in your own company. I'm not talking about being a creepy person that talks to themselves but being happy with yourself. You should be loving your own company and just loving yourself as a human.

Find a hobby

And I am not talking about trashing your exes car. I mean if you want 10 ways how to get revenge on your ex I can write that. And trust me there are smarter ways to talk about it, and I see you sitting hire thinking, what do you think of stalking his girlfriend? No, I'm talking about a real hobby something you like that brings you joy. That's what a hobby is to me, it should make me happy. I should be finding fulfilment by doing it.

Go out

Do things with your friends. Don't be that creepy person that doesn't ever go out and sits in their room with the curtains closed. Just remember to live your life. No other person can ever define you. They are not deciding what you should and shouldn't be doing. Have fun! That's the best advice I've ever gotten.

I was having the worst day ever and I remember Nathan (AKA the best friend on planet earth) telling me not to care. He told me that it's my life and I shouldn't give a fuck about what's going on with him.

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ME time

The best thing you can do is care for yourself. You are back on the market. Go for it, look the best you have ever looked. Wear whatever you want, go and get a manicure. Have some ME TIME

I hope you liked this post and share what you think

XOXO Lisa

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5 signs he is’t mr right

Finding the one is every girls dream. Including me!  Even  if he is the 4th Hamsworrth brother, the most charming man on the plant. It doesn't make him relationship material
I know what you are thinking. Why can't I just find the right person and get over it? That's not how it works and OMG I wish it did.  But first let's identify what's wrong. Then we can see who is right. 
I have my fare share of bad relationships experience. From my first boyfriend, who turned out to gay.
To my last boyfriend who turned out to just want nudes. With he NEVER got! I get approached by guys every day. Not for being attractive. But I'm in the modelling industry. Guys that's a wrong dude magnet on it's one.
Not going anywhere with you
This is red flag number one. If I see this I should be running the opposite direction.
If he is hiding me there's something going on. Now I run, taken the fire escape if I need to. But don't go all creepy on him.
If I only have been dating for a week, I won't expect him to introduce me to his best friends and his parents. But if it's just not happening, leave!
Asking for sex
Lets be real. If he keeps bugging me for sex he isn't the one. Just because he has a six pack I won't be sleeping with him.  Come on hun keep yourself in check. It can happen. I think the 3 date rules not that bad.  But he shouldn't be asking it on the first date.
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Talking about his ex
I know this may be obvious to most of you. But  he shouldn't be talking about his ex. Maybe he is really sweet. But you can't open your hart to someone who isn't ready.

 

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XOXO Lisa
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That time I was a total bitch 

I’ve been having a tough time lately. I’m in this big blown out of proportion fight with my best friend and honestly I was a bitch. 


Let me explain 

We’ve had s difficult past and I’m challenged when it comes to forgiving someone’s mistakes. We have had our problems in the past trust me, a little more that usual. 

But I always keep going back because we make etch other happy. But sometimes the past just comes keeping in.


What happened 

A small comment just got me so freaking mad, I started seeing the past and how much I was heart. I kept going at it and I kept going back with arguments of the past and I realised, I’m not giving chances.

We all say we are forcing Sometimes we just aren’t 

And I felt like I had to share this just because I am so much into empowerment and accepting yourself and others. I feel like even if you have the best intentions in the world you need to stop and look at yourself.
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Learn to believe in yourself

I’m a very anxious and nervous person, I experience a lot of emotions at once. Like a lot of people I have a fear of failing. Not only professionally but personally as well. It’s not an easy or fun thing to deal with but I have some tips that can keep us all going!

Changing your mindset

The mind is a powerful tool and if you know how to use it, it can change your life! Telling yourself you love something will instantly diminish your resentment towards the task at hand.

My resentment towards studying certain subjects was put to the test this finals. I realised I had built a wall towards some subjects. To avoid falling I had to lie to myself that I liked it. And it works.

Ambition vs relaxation

Sometimes we want to much of ourselves. I’m a perfectionist and I’m very pushy when it comes to performing. But I’ve realised you can’t perform if you aren’t taking a break.

A healthy and happy mindset is key to achieving your goals. Your brain needs rest just like any other part of your body. Going on a night out with friends won’t kill you!

Plan succes

I’m not the type of person who will say that failing isn’t a big deal and all that bull shit others will say. Don’t get me wrong, dealing with failure is importent but the key to succes is changing your method when it’s not working, not giving up!

I think that being realistic is planing day to day things that are doable to active your goal.  What ever your goal is even if it seams far out of your league is worth going for. So play the steps to reaching it.

Resting & eating well

Taking a break and resting are two different things. Resting is getting enough sleep and this will lower your negative feelings. You would be surprised how much clearer you think once you have slept!

Eating well and healthy is importent to lower your anxiety. Keeping your sugar levels steady is impotent. Try eating whole grains, it will give your more energy and you won’t have that low feeling.

Accepting your fear

I always lied to myself that I’m not afraid of failing, but on the end of the day, I am. And that’s okay. Accepting it has given me peace and I think it’s the most fundamental thing to do. If you name something you

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Embrace the weird

All of you who have been following me for a while have heard me talk about positivity and confidence.

I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. And if you’re following my Instagram  you can be thinking, WTF Lisa. 

And I know, I found myself looking at other peoples stuff and wanting to do the same. But then I realised it wasn’t working. Because I wasn’t being who I am.

The way you talk, walk, put  yourself on social media is an extension of yourself. When people look at my Instagram, blog, YouTube, Twitter…  I want to show you who I am.

So I’m going to embrace the awkward, weird person I am.

And a peace of advice, be who you are. One person will like you even if it’s your mum. Do things for yourself and not for others. 

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Is he cheating?

I think we’ve all been there and we’ve all felt horrible for thinking our boyfriend is cheating. This is what I look for if I get suspicious

Walking away when texting 

This is kind of a give away. You know there’s something wrong if he isn’t sitting next to you.

Calling you off 

If he doesn’t show up or makes exists somthibg is up. Girls if he says his working late don’t go all creepy on him.

Hiding you 

If you are dating for more then a month believe me you should know all his friends. Again don’t be too pushy.

Just ask 

Sometimes asking is the bast way to find out what’s going on. Relationships are based on trust and if you don’t trust him, brake up. At the end of the day you will always find out if he is cheating.

Just remember to check if he is acting weird. And if you feel like he is, ask. He should be able to deal with that!

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Breakups how to get over them

Breaking up is part of growing up

We’ve all been there. You try to act like grown ups and break up with earth other and the next day, you miss him. Okay hold up, don’t go throwing out his stuff and ripping his pictures.

Don’t sweat it, watching every Nicholas Sparks movies on the planet isn’t going to help in any way.

Firstly you need to find something to do. He was a part of your life and you did stuff together. For me it was hard to find things to do on the weekends because we were always together.

The moment I started blogging and using my Instagram more I started realising how much I love writing and it became a great outlet.

After a couple of weeks he will try to reach out. This is the time of evaluation and for you to check if you have been happy or not. If you feel like crape a month later, call him and talk. If you ate heaving the time of your life move on. And remember you only deserve the best.

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