How to get your shit together and learn to actually be an adult

  how to be an adult

This past year I’ve changed a lot. In a good way if I do say so myself.  I’ve learned how to calm down and be way more rational. So basically I got my shit together.

Not rushing

Do you know those times when you are trying to put on your shoos but it’s just not happening? Chances are you are in such a rush you are not focust. This used to happen to me all the time.

I always try to stay calm even if I am late to thing. There’s no need to make yourself crazy and get that unnecessary adrenalin rush. Instead I just stay calm and think about what I need to do. Trust me this takes less time.

Listening to people

I love being right. But recently I’ve learned that everyone has something relevant to say. Don’t ever look down on people. I learn so much form listening to others, you would be surprised to hear the knowledge people have.

The other day my little brother taught me how to send snapchat videos to Instagram. That’s just an example of one of the things I would not have known if I didn’t listen.

Existentialism

You know I am going to bring up philosophy any time I can. But this is something that truly helped me grow as a person.

You are in charge of your own being and that’s so powerful. If I am not happy with something or in a bad mood I just sit down and think about it. At the end of  the day I am making the unconscious decision to have a bad day. So I can change it just by using my thoughts.

It might seem odd to you but I would tell everyone to take a philosophy class or read a book. But if that isn’t really your cup of tea or you just don’t have the time. Here is a free youtube serie you can watch and learn about the world around you.

Have fun

This is one thing we all forget to do once in a while. I realised I don’t need to be productive and working every minute of the day. Sometimes it’s enough to just sit and relax. There’s really nothing wrong with that. How to be an adult is relative guys. Just be happy when doing it.

 

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How to live a positive and meaningful life

This has been one of the biggest pitfalls in my life. It’s a very dark journey. Finding the things you love and being happy. It took me a long time to actually smile and look forward to things.

I’m a pessimistic person by nature. So giving myself that extra boots can make the biggest difference.

Be passionate

Even if it is about your outfit in the morning. Having a passion for something is the key to happiness for me. Yes, it’s also the source of stress and turmoil but those emotions make you appreciate it. I love my blog and do everything to create content I am proud to put out. Even if it isn’t perfect at times I do it with all my love.

Don’t care

Judgement is the wrecking ball to all your dreams. I’m not going to say you should’t care. But sometimes you should live in your own little bubble. To me my little bubble is turning of my phone when I am with my friends. Pretending it doesn’t exist or listening to a lecture without all the crazy notifications lighting up my screen.

Short term vs long term

Having long term goals is great. You should have long term goals but it’s the little things that make life worth it. Even if it is having a cup of coffee in the morning. All those little things can really make your day. I start smiling when I smell flowers in the morning or get a text from my best friend. I feel like we take all those little things for granted. Because we are in a world where everything goes so fast but there are times you should sit down and think. Sometimes I can just sit and look outside thinking about what I can do next to make everything better and more amazing. Reflection is key to a happy and calm life

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Why Talking to yourself can benefit your producivity

Talking to yourself

Let me just say it, I talk to myself, a lot. When I was younger people used to think I was crazy. I would lock my door and read to myself, afterwards I would tell myself what I read. It sounds odd but that is how I used to learn.

Denying it

I used to try my hardest not to do it. My grades went down dramatically from not talking to myself and not saying things out loud. It was not done so I didn’t do it. My teachers always told me to make summaries and write things down. Even if I still make summaries and write down what I am learning I don’t spend that much time making things look pretty and neat as I used to. When people think productivity and learning they always think you should be sitting behind a desk and that just doesn’t work for everyone.

The truth

There’s nothing wrong with talking to yourself. Lot’s of studies have proven that taking to yourself is great for your memory (here just to prove a point). The most brilliant minds like Einstein talked to themselves so why can’t we? Our auditorial memory is a great tool to use so let’s use it.

How I study now

Now I am not shy to walk out of a room and study. Up to the beginning of this year I was shy to study this way and thought I was abnormal. Now I walk out of class and just run true the halls revising my papers out loud. It might sound odd but I detest sitting down so I don’t anymore and it’s the best decision I have ever made.

So tell me how do you learn, and do you talk to yourself?

And O ya share this article if you like it and don’t forget to be awesome 🙂

XOXO Lisa

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Going to uni, taking a leap of faith

In October I’m going to uni if everything goes as planed. I’ve looked forward to this moment for ever. I’ve never really been a high school person. What I’m trying to say is that I never was popular or particularly talented.

I’m the smart kid that doesn’t really care I guess. Just get the marks you need to leave. I’m going to law school and I am exited. But at the same time I am so terrified. And I feel like no one tells you this. There is no one who will tell you the truth.

I can be honest with you and say yes I cried. I’m afraid of failing. Like lots of people! So I went to my mum and asked her what I should do. She just looked me in the eye and said “you’ve always wanted to be a lawyer don’t give up now. And it’s true. At the age of 3 I would tell my mums friends that they should get divorced and I’ll make them rich in the settlement. Aka things a kid shouldn’t be saying haha. And funny enough I wasn’t allowed to what TV so don’t really know where it came form.

So I guess I’m jumping in the deep and. I don’t even know if I will like it, maybe I won’t even be good at it. But I know that if I don’t go and try I’m going to hate myself forever. And I feel like it’s importent to take a leap of faith. I believe in me and maybe this is the right path for me.

I’m not this perfect human being and I will never ever know what life will trow at me. But it’s better to fail then to live with regret. I am realising this when I look back. Their have been so many things that I wish I did. So this time I’m letting my heart  take the weal and giving my conscious a vacation on the back seat.

 

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How to enjoy being single after being in a relationship

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Single, a word that people have dreaded since the begging of human history.Trying to find a partner to accompany them in breathing season... Haha just kidding, I watch discovery channel a lot.

But let's be real being single sucks. Every women on the planet wants a freaking boyfriend to hug at night and have company.

 Okay not that long I'm not a nun but you get the point.

I feel like being single is something fun in its own way. That single life has something to it. Now I can say, I don't have the need to look for a boyfriend anymore. If it happens it happens, obsession is over.

Love your own company

Thanks to my philosophy teacher I have learned one thing. To be happy with myself. Finding joy in your own company. I'm not talking about being a creepy person that talks to themselves but being happy with yourself. You should be loving your own company and just loving yourself as a human.

Find a hobby

And I am not talking about trashing your exes car. I mean if you want 10 ways how to get revenge on your ex I can write that. And trust me there are smarter ways to talk about it, and I see you sitting hire thinking, what do you think of stalking his girlfriend? No, I'm talking about a real hobby something you like that brings you joy. That's what a hobby is to me, it should make me happy. I should be finding fulfilment by doing it.

Go out

Do things with your friends. Don't be that creepy person that doesn't ever go out and sits in their room with the curtains closed. Just remember to live your life. No other person can ever define you. They are not deciding what you should and shouldn't be doing. Have fun! That's the best advice I've ever gotten.

I was having the worst day ever and I remember Nathan (AKA the best friend on planet earth) telling me not to care. He told me that it's my life and I shouldn't give a fuck about what's going on with him.

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ME time

The best thing you can do is care for yourself. You are back on the market. Go for it, look the best you have ever looked. Wear whatever you want, go and get a manicure. Have some ME TIME

I hope you liked this post and share what you think

XOXO Lisa

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New Years Eve with the people I love

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New Years Eve, new you. that’s what we all are hoping for.

Hi guys, I’m sitting by the dinner table with my family. My phone by my side calling all the people I care about. And of course writing a little thank you to all of you. This year I’m turning 20 and I’m deciding to close a chapter.

New Years Eve with my family

I am not spending my New Years Eve with friends. Because honestly I haven’t been surrounding myself with good people. I tell y’all this a lot, surround yourself with the people that support you. This year I’ve had to learn the hard way.

With more and more people getting to know who I am and fame lurking on my doorstep. I had to learn that not everyone has good intentions. Some people only want to be your friends because you have something they don’t.

It’s funny to see the people that hated me as a kid asking for a friend request on Facebook. A scenario we are all dealing with thanks to social media. But you know what I’m not going to let them take advantage of me and what I work for.

That’s why I’m not spending my new year with friends. But with my family and the people I care most dearly for. These people support me and what I do. That’s why I am surrounded by them. And of course with all of your,

Special thank you

And I also want to say thank you to all of you guys for being my friends this year. You can not imagine how much I love you all. You guys are my friends and I feel so blessed to have you all in my life.

XOXO Lisa

See you next year, Aka I’ll see tomorrow with a blogpost 🙂

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5 Life hacks that make you feel like you got your life togethe

It’s hard for any human to feel like they got there shit together every single day. But it’is time to put on those grown up pants and take controle!

1. Make your bed

There is nothing more embarrassing than having that hot dude come up to your room and your bed isn’t made. Talk about bad impressions. 

2. Keep your handbag empty

Every evening when you come home. Just empty your bag. All the papers and stuff you collected that you don’t need, trow it out! Doing this daily will make it easier to switch bags and keep it clean.

3. Buy a planner and use it

Knowing what you are doing and when you are doing it is one of the best ways to stay organised. A paper agenda is the best option, just because it’s a physical object you have to look at every day! I promise you every you pull out your planner, you will feel like a grown ass adult!

4. Set deadlines

Give yourself a deadline on when to get things done. It should be at least 2 to 4 days before you actually needs to be done.

5. Check your email

Don’t be that person with 500 emails waiting. You don’t have any excuses. Only subscribe to the mailing lists you really need. And those of you who think it makes you feel impotent, no it doesn’t. 😊

Comment if you have any ideas and share 😉 xoxo Lisa 😘

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